Developing Effective Communication Skills - A Life-Long Task
Nearly a hundred years ago John D. Rockefeller said "The ability to deal with people is as purchasable a commodity as sugar or coffee. And I will pay more for that ability than for any other under the sun." That statement remains as true today as it did when Mr. Rockefeller uttered those words - both our personal and professional lives are significantly impacted by our communication style.
Effective communication is a subject that has long interested and challenged me. Although I may never get to the "exceptionally skilled" category, I plan to enjoy the learning process, of which I consider this blog a part.
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Effective leaders share many traits – courage, decisiveness, integrity, motivation and stewardship, to name a few. What sets these people apart? What makes others want to follow them? They are individually and collectively powerful communicators
The most important skill required of a good communicator, and often the most challenging to perform well, is first and foremost, be a good listener.
Steven Covey addressed this need in his 7 Habits of Highly Successful People. “Seek first to understand, then to be understood,” and nearly 2000 years before Mr. Covey, Epictetus said, “We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.”
Good listeners ask themselves “what” questions. “What is going on in addition to the words I’m hearing?” What background or point of view is the speaker revealing?” Furthermore, good listeners may ask the speaker “what” questions. “What can I do for you? What would you like to see happen?”
If you find yourself interrupting or finishing the speaker’s sentences, take a mental step back and refocus your attention. For most of us, developing good listening skills takes practice (and patience!)
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